Monday Parent Tip

Help Your Child Become a Good Friend

Four- to six-year-olds are learning what it means to be a friend. They will have fun times as well as arguments and hurt feelings. It can be tempting for parents to try to solve these problems themselves or by talking with the other child’s parent. Instead, guide your child to solve problems. With your help, your child can learn how to solve social problems.

1. Help your child understand the other child’s point of view. “I guess Suzie wants a turn too.”
2. Teach your child the following:
• Stay calm
• Do not hit, grab, or shove
3. Use words:
• “I get upset when you talk to me like that.”
• “I’m sad you don’t want to play with me.”
• “I’m angry you took the ball from me.”
4. Stand close by and watch as the children solve their problem. Being close by puts the children on their best behavior. This is how they begin to develop the confidence and skills to communicate honestly, calmly, and politely with others.