Friday, December 30, 2011

Fun Family Game

This game is sure to be fun for the whole family - what a great spin on an old game! Not to mention, an awesome way to learn things about your family members.

Ask Me Anything

by Amy Brown, Photograph by Joe Polillio From FamilyFun Magazine

Ask Me Anything - Image Collection

Just how well do you know that grandma of yours? This easygoing question game may yield some surprising discoveries.

Instructions
  1. The Setup: Make a basic game board (we recommend dividing a piece of sturdy cardboard into about 30 spaces) or simply use a board from a game you have on hand, such as Candy Land. On index cards, write questions that will help uncover interesting facts about your family members.

    Place the question cards facedown in a pile and assign each player a game piece.

  2. To Play: The first player draws a card and reads the question aloud to the player on his right. The player writes down his answer while the questioner writes down what he thinks the answer will be. Both players then read their answers aloud. If they match, the questioner rolls the dice and moves his piece that number of spaces, then draws another question to ask another player.

    If the answers don't match, the next player draws a question. The first player to reach the designated end space wins.

Monday, December 26, 2011

Study Shows Impact of Fathers' Depression on Children's Emotional Development

Dad's Depression May Raise Kids' Risk of Emotional Problems

By

WebMD Health News

Reviewed by Laura J. Martin, MD
depressed man with face in hands

Nov. 7, 2011 -- Children of depressed dads are more likely to have emotional and behavioral problems, compared with kids whose dads are not depressed, according to a new study.

Much has been written about how a mother's depression can affect her children. But less is known about how depression in dads affects a child's emotional development.

The new study looked at more than 22,000 children from two-parent homes. It showed that depression in dads increases kids' risk for emotional problems.

The researchers measured depression and more general mental health problems among parents using two standardized tools.

The study appears in the December 2011 issue of Pediatrics.

According to the findings, a child's risk for emotional or behavioral problems was still much greater if their mothers, rather than fathers, were depressed or had other emotional problems (19% vs. 11%, respectively).

Children were even more likely to display emotional or behavioral problems if both parents were depressed. One-quarter of children with two depressed parents had emotional or behavioral problems.

Study researcher Michael Weitzman, MD, breaks it down this way: "There is a doubling of the risk if the father alone is depressed, a tripling of the risk if the mother alone is depressed, and the risk increases fourfold if kids have a depressed mom and dad."

Weitzman is a professor of pediatrics at New York University Langone Medical Center in New York City. "This is huge," he says.

Depressed parents parent differently, he says. "How people parent influences every aspect of child development," he says. For example, "if a parent is depressed, the normal things that might excite him or her can be an irritant," he says.

Treating Depression in Dads

R. Neal Davis, MD, a pediatrician at Intermountain Healthcare in Murray, Utah, agrees. Parents who are depressed engage in less positive parenting behaviors and more negative ones, he says. For example, they may be less likely to read to their children and more likely to spank them.

"Depression in parents affects children, and it is our job to encourage parents to get care, as this will have spillover benefits on their kids," he says.

Davis has seen firsthand how identifying and treating depression in moms and dads can have positive effects on their children's development.

"The earlier we can catch the depression, the better it is for all involved," says James F. Paulson, PhD. He is an associate professor of psychology at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, Va.

He says that these new findings may encourage depressed dads to seek help, and that is a very good thing. This is the first large-scale study in the U.S. that documents the association between depression in fathers and a child's emotional and behavioral problems, he says. "For dads who may feel uncertain about seeking help, remember this isn't just about you, this is about your kid and even if you are not willing to get help for yourself, do it for your child."

The study did not get into the specifics of the children's emotional and behavioral issues. Paulson tells WebMD that some of the problems that these children could face will vary based on their age.

"Toddlers may show more difficulty regulating their emotions, have more ups and downs in their moods, and may tend to be more aggressive or react more explosively," he says.

School-aged children, however, are more likely to be diagnosed with psychiatric disorders such as depression, anxiety, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

Signs of Depression

Alan Manevitz, MD, a psychiatrist at New York City's Lenox Hill Hospital, says the new findings "make total sense."

"In general, the psychologic well-being of the father will impact on children as it does with moms," he says. "It also makes total sense that depression in moms has a higher percent of impact on kids because moms traditionally are the chief operating officer of home life."

Knowing the signs and symptoms of depression can help you catch it early, Manevitz says. Men and women may express their emotions differently. Women traditionally have been more open to admitting they are sad, but men suffer quietly and don't share as much, Manevitz says. "Men may get angry and or drink more alcohol," he says.

That said, some signs of depression are similar among men and women.

These include:

  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Fatigue and decreased energy
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness
  • Feelings of hopelessness
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Changes in appetite
  • No longer taking pleasure in things they used to find enjoyable
  • Decreased sex drive

"Treatment is available, and can help the whole family," Manevitz says.

Friday, December 23, 2011

We Give Books

Don't have time to get to the library? Are your children bored with the books they have at home? Check out We Give Books for access to children's books that can be read online!
http://www.wegivebooks.org/books

We Give Books is a new digital initiative that enables anyone with access to the Internet to put books in the hands of children who don't have them, simply by reading online.

We Give Books combines the joy of reading with the power of helping others, providing a platform for caregivers and educators to inspire children to become lifelong readers and lifelong givers.

We Give Books also helps some of the world's best, most inspiring, literacy organizations by spreading the word about their great work and by providing books to the young people these organizations support.

Monday, December 19, 2011

Study Shows an Increase in Text-Related Bullying by Kids

Texting May Be New Arena for Bullies

By
WebMD Health News
Reviewed by Laura J. Martin, MD
teen texting

Nov. 21, 2011 -- Texting among U.S. children is increasing in popularity, and as a result, more kids may be harassed or bullied via text messages, a new study finds.

The study included 1,588 young people aged 10 to 15 who answered questions online in 2006, 2007, and 2008 as part of the Growing Up with Media survey.

While there was not an increase in exposure to violent material, harassment, bullying, or unwanted sexual encounters on the Internet during this time frame, there was an uptick in texting-related bullying or harassment.

The study is published in Pediatrics.

Texting on the Rise

Rates of text messaging among adolescents increased from 59% in 2008 to 72% in 2009, while rates of Internet use remained stable at 93% from 2006 to 2008.

It is too early to say why harassment and unwanted sexual communication is increasing among adolescent texters, but not Internet users.

"It may be because aggressive behavior is shifting from online to text messaging or it may be because text messaging is relatively new and we're all figuring out how to communicate well using it; in this case, rates should stabilize as we become more familiar with it," says study researcher Michele Ybarra MPH, PhD, of Internet Solutions for Kids, Inc. in San Clemente, Calif.

Parents can also use filtering software to prevent children from accessing inappropriate web sites, but no such technology is available for cell phone texting yet, she says.

In the study, children were asked if or how often they visited violent sites, such as one showing images of war, death, or terrorism. They were also asked if they had been cyberbullied online or via text. Those who said they had been targeted were asked how they felt after their worst experience.

The online world may be becoming safer for children, Ybarra says. "Rates of violent exposures and experiences online do not seem to be increasing; nor do rates of distress."

The majority of young people are not harassed, bullied, or targets of unwanted sexual communication online or via text messaging, and most of those who are do not report extreme distress even by their most serious experience. "For most young people, navigating technology-infused relationships is generally OK," Ybarra says.

Still one in four children who are harassed or bullied online or via text are "strongly and negatively" affected by the experience.

"We need to do a better job of identifying these kids, and getting them the support and help that they need," Ybarra says.

Role of Parents

Some of the onus falls on parents. "Talk to your kids about your values and how you want and expect them to treat others," Ybarra says. "Give concrete examples across modes."

At core, these are relationship and communication issues. "Parents can help their children by talking to them about healthy relationships, how to communicate assertively but healthfully when their children are unhappy with others," she says.

"View technology as an additional space that you can help your child learn to navigate safely and independently," Ybarra says via email. "Work with your children to go online and use text messaging safely."

Victor Strasburger, MD, says the most important step parents can take is to take control of their children's media exposure.

"That means setting limits, leaving the cell phone in a basket in the kitchen at bedtime and reporting hostile texts," says Strasburger, professor of pediatrics at the University of New Mexico. "Any technology in the bedroom means that parents will be absolutely unable to control what their children are exposed to."

SOURCES:

Michele Ybarra, MPH, PhD, Internet Solutions for Kids, Inc., San Clemente, Calif.

Ybarra, M.L. Pediatrics, 2011.

Victor Strasburger, MD, professor of pediatrics, University of New Mexico.

Friday, December 16, 2011

2 Fun Events in our Community!

These are both FREE Children First! Events and open to all families!

Let's Build It!

Saturday, 12/17/11 ~ 11:00am - 1:00pm
Grand Rapids Library

Be the architect as you draw and build! With Creativity Tank artists we'll look to author David Macaulay's books for inspiration. Put your imagination to work using the basic process of design, and map out solutions as you build fantastic constructions from found objects. Children 0-6 must be accompanied by an adult. School bus #41 arrives at the library at 3:30pm. Registration required online at www.getlearning.org or by calling the Library at 327 - 8823

Holiday Lights Display
Thursday, 12/22/11 ~ 5:00pm - 7:00pm
Central School Grounds

Come see the Holiday Lights Display on the Grounds of the Central School. Join us for a fun celebration that will include appearances by "Chippy", "Pooh", Cat in the Hat, Elves, Santa and the Grinch! Free Corn dogs, hot chocolate and cider will be served.

Monday, December 12, 2011

Free Parenting Webinar

Wednesday 12/14/2011 : 12:00 PM - 1:00 PM

Welcome to Fatherhood! A Webinar for Expecting and New Dads (and those that care about them)

Welcome to Fatherhood! A Webinar for Expecting and New Dads (and those that care about them)

This webinar will offer encouragement, information, and perspective to new fathers as to what to expect in their new role as father. We will address issues related to the child’s development, the father’s development, co-parenting, cultural myths/pressures related to fathering, fears, opportunities, family of origin, and families with special needs. There will also be time to field questions and discuss opportunities and resources for continual support and encouragement.

Cost: FREE
Go to www.workingfam.org/events to register for the "live" presentation or access the recorded version when it is convenient for you. If you wish to join a discussion during the event, bring a bag lunch and join a licensed parent educator in Room 135 of the ISD 318 Administrative Building. For more info call Step Ahead 327-5753